The 3 worlds of a relationship

It is vitally important to spend time in each of three different worlds in a relationship. First, it is important to realize that you live in a different world (or different reality) than the person you are relating to. You perceive things differently. You have different things important to you.

The first world is their world. You are discovering their world. Make sure you spend some time in it. If you pay attention, they will invite you into their world. Leave the assumptions of your world behind and enter theirs. Explore. Be inquisitive. Ask them questions so that you understand what it is like to live in their world.

The second world is your world. You are exposing your world to them. Invite them into your world so that they may experience it.  Take some risks and expose some things about yourself. Allow yourself to be vulnerable. Let them see what it is like in you world.

The third world is the shared world. It is the world you create together. It is the world of we.  When you share the same world, you have the same points of reference and can see things in a similar way. You both have to be willing to leave your own worlds so that you may enter this world together.

The shared world is best created with shared experiences. The two of you inhabiting the same space and experience the same occurrences. You then compare notes and find out what each others' experience of that occurrence was. Both experiences are accepted as real- with neither being more valid than the other. Your varying perceptions add diversity and richness to the experience. They are blended together into a shared experience. It is an experience unique to the two of you. It creates an everlasting bond between you.

It is the beginning of your shared world.

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Really like this article. From my point of view, sharing gives life meaning. Alone, you're just one isolated story floating amidst all the world's disconnected individual stories. In contrast, two people living harmoniously, together, helps each individual perfect their enjoyment in life. As I see it, every relationship is like a magnifying mirror - and hopefully a romantic relationship highlight's what's beautiful, strong and endearing about the other participant. Hopefully that "mirror" is not one that distorts perspective (like some carnival mirror inside a freak house). Well said Michael. This is a beautiful, concise and well-presented (thought provoking) piece.

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