Real life sometimes feels pale in comparison...

We watch movies and TV. The events that happen are often larger than life. Then we go home and have a talk with our child and there is not poignant theme music in the background. It feels normal and pale in comparison. It may even be anti-climactic. I used to think I was not doing it right. I used to say, "Is this it?" But it was. It was just life- with no bells and whistles.

The richness that accompanies experiences like that is incredibly subtle. Movie, TV, and books do a great job getting us to feel the emotions of life. The feelings are real and there is value in feeling them. But the dramatic techniques used to get us to feel are not real; they are significantly different than real life.

My teacher used to say we create a "romantic fantasy" around the experince. And then real life inevitable falls short. We had it so idealized the real thing didn't stand a chance.

Then when we live our life and think we are not doing it right. Chances are we are. And the feelings are more subtle- but they are there. We have to be quiet and still to feel the richness. And, we have to stop comparing it to the way it is depicted in the movies.

So go see movies for entertainment and feeling. But talk to your child to love and support her and make a difference in her life. And allow yourself to appreciate the subtle beauty and richness of the experience. It was absolutely perfect the way it was.

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