New year, new parameters for your relationships

This time of the year is a natural time for introspection and reevaluation of your life. Relationships are one of the essential things to reevaluate. Relationships are not static; they are ever-changing and evolving. So why not take some time to examine each of your significant relationships?

How has the relationship evolved over the last year? What significant experiences have occurred? Is it time for the relationship to go into a new phase? Say your child has gone to college or taken a job as a young adult. It is likely time to change the parameters of the relationship (see previous parameters blog). This may also require a shift in your relationship with your significant other. Or perhaps your younger child has hit a different developmental stage- their world needs to expand. Or your parent is aging. Better make some adjustments.

But we tend to get attached to the way our relationships are. We are used to it. It is comfortable. It is meeting our emotional needs. We may have to grieve a favorite time of our life. We may have to accept necessary loss.

Plus, we are afraid that if we change it, we may lose that person. Precisely the opposite is true- we usually lose people from not making the necessary changes in the relationship. Never let the lines of communication to be broken.

It is likely that you will have to initiate these changes. Seems like everybody is waiting for someone else to make the change that we all know is inevitable. Be strong. Be the leader.

I know this is harsh, but the relationship is going to change. You can either make the change willingly... or on your hands and knees.

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