Holidays a big deal at the emotional level

Like it or not- at the emotional level, the holidays and birthdays are a big deal.

Have you ever said to yourself, "What is the big deal? Christmas Eve or my birthday is just another day." And then spent it by yourself or in some "business as usual" fashion. And then got hit with this wall of emotion. Often it is sadness about being alone or not with people that are able to make it special for you.

So this year prepare. Think about where you want to be. I recommend being with the people that are most important to you. And think about what type of celebration will meet your emotional needs. Even if you say Christmas it is all about the kids or about family. There is some little thing that makes the holiday special for you. Find it.

And then make sure you celebrate it. Do not blow it off. This is no time to be a martyr. You are a human being. You have emotional needs. I guarantee some of them are correlated with the holidays.

Maybe it is a tradition that you like to celebrate. Or maybe it is time to create a new tradition- with a new family or new significant other. Now is the time to think about it and plan it.

Or maybe now is the time to adjust your plans. Does sleeping in twin beds at your in-laws on Christmas Eve really work for you?  Money sent on a motel room can be worth its weight in gold at times like this. Your significant other may say, "But it will hurt their feelings if we don't stay with them."

Simply say, "Yeah, but it will hurt my feelings if we do." Whose life is it anyway?

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