Got guilt? Learn something.

We get hung up on reconciliation. When we feel guilty- we want to make it right. This is one of those great ideas that just does not work. Once you make a mistake that hurts someone (or yourself), you really can't undo its effect.

So say you betray a friend's trust. Your first response is to make things right. You have to do something that makes this right. You are so sorry. You are super nice to them. You send flowers. They may even forgive you. But you cannot undo the effect of what you did. Your relationship has changed. No matter what you do, it is going to take some time before that person trusts you again in that way- if they give you that chance.

It's not that they are holding a grudge. It takes their heart some time to heal. Then they have to decide if they are going to risk going to that space with you again.

So you feel guilty. You beat yourself up. How could you mess up such a cool thing? What were you thinking? Maybe paying some penance will help the situation? Not really.

So what can you do?
1. Accept the effect your behavior had.
2. Learn something.

3. Promise yourself to never make that same mistake again.

Guilt is an issue we have with ourselves. We feel that we acted outside our integrity- and it hurt someone we care about. Learning from it allows us to get value from an otherwise negative experience. How did I let that happen? It makes our mistake count for something. Promising ourselves to not do it again allows us to hold ourselves accountable in way that we can forward. Perhaps we can even forgive ourselves (and let ourselves heal).

Because... although it may not be with the same person or situation, life will definitely give you another chance at this lesson. Will you be ready?

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