Do they deserve your open heart?

The following is an excerpt from my upcoming book, Your Natural Gift. When your heart is open it is natural to want to offer it to everyone. However, if someone is not open to your gift, then it is best to not offer it to them. If you are offering your heart and they are being critical and judgmental, then why offer it? They are not going to get the value of your gift anyway, because they are not open to it. If their heart is not open, then your heart has nothing to connect with.

And if they are coming from their detached intellect or their fear, then your open heart is just going to annoy them or threaten them. Your heart opens them up to feeling which is threatening to them. So they will unconsciously seek to shut it down. And the most effective way for them to shut you down is to attack your open heart. It is a natural defense. It is not personal. It does not necessarily mean they are abusive or mean. It just means that at that moment, they are not open to your gift. Therefore, at that moment, they do not deserve your open heart. So do both of you a huge favor, and do not offer it.

The following quote by Bart Anderson describes this process of discernment clearly, “Bring up the energy of your gift to the person and discern if the door is open before offering it. Discern if there is a connection before proceeding.” So bring up the gift you would like to offer them and pause a moment to evaluate if they are open to that gift. If they are, proceed. If not, do not offer it.

And live to fight another day. Perhaps there will be another day when that person is open to your gift. Or maybe there is another person that you are about to interact with that will be open to your gift.

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