Damned if you do and damned if you don't

The toughest decisions usually involve no-win situations. There is going to be a downside to either choice. Either way, people are going to get hurt and damage will be done. We make the best choice based on the information that we have, but still we feel guilty and beat ourselves up for the choice we made.

But you would've felt guilty and beat yourself up for either choice that you made.

So why not make the choice and stand with that choice. Know that people that there will be damage with the choice that you made. Find the strength and courage to make the choice based on your best information and intuition. And then let it go. You did your job.

Sure, take responsibility for the choice you made with the information that you had at the time. But do not take responsibility for the damage that was done with the choice you made. You could not prevent this. It is not your cross to bear. Sometimes you see terrible things that are going to happen and there's absolutely nothing you can do to prevent it. It is not your fault.

And whatever you do, do not revisit this choice years later with additional life experience, self-awareness, and information- and then judge the choice you made. That is the most brutal thing you can do to yourself.

Give it rest. You deserve some compassion and basic decency. Self-condemnation no more.

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